MMMM + I don’t want to be here


But I am getting good at compartmentalizing everything!

Yeah, ever since last week’s truth bomb that I’d have to start finding a new job, the desire to go to work is pretty low. At first (Thursday) I kind of hung my head in shame; kept my door mostly closed and stuck to myself. I had planned to leave at 2 but then I got a call from the middle school. I’m not going into detail because it is something really dumb but I picked up Isaac and he and I took a little drive up to Bradley’s country store. Got some candy and a root beer and a jar of bread and butter pickles then went home. We puttered around until Dakota got home and I made her dinner but then we took her to girl scouts and the boys and I went for sushi. It was nice but we didn’t take long to eat. Picked her up then didn’t do too much else. Ash was out of town for work so I went to bed early!

I woke up Friday morning thinking I’d go to work at least until 2 but then I thought, ‘Why should I?’. I had taken Wednesday (my birthday) off but it didn’t work out to be for me; my dad called me in the morning and then I was meeting other people by 11:30 then it was not my time anymore. SO, I called in sick (mental health) and got started on my day! Took Koda to school and came home, then took Isaac to school, came home and showered then I made my very first mead.

I’m not the biggest mead fan but I got the idea I’d try it, since we’ve been sitting on nine pounds of honey forever. This one is just a straight forward one, though I did use one cup of black tea as a yeast nutrient. We’ll see; it began fermenting the very next day so that’s good.

Anyway, I then took myself to Publix and did stuff around the house, though I’m having trouble remember what all it was. I guess I did finally take some old kid stuff up to the Christian thrift store and I sprayed the yard for bugs, since that’s apparently what’s drawing a whole herd of armadillos to this one area where they are digging a million holes. I swept floors and put things away and got things out for Saturday’s beer fest. I made myself some eggs and veggies – don’t know why that sounded good but it did – then waited for kids to come home. We washed the pollen off my and Elliot’s cars and did a little bit of mowing maintenance.

Ash was supposed to be home at 7 but it was more like 8:30. Before then, Dakota’s friend came over to play but then they invited her to sleep over so she was gone. Isaac decided he’d start watching Ted Lasso so I watched some episodes with him and then Ash got home and we finished up prepping for Saturday’s event.

That next day was busy and long! Koda was gone out on the neighbors’ boat, Elliot worked early, and we prepped and waited for our friends to show up since they were driving and helping serve. It took a little under an hour to get down there and then we set up. We had four tents for our club and they had us in a nice spot, I thought. As you can see below, in that first pic, the club tent, we are to the left of that. Then there’s our group, then an example of how crowded it was!

All in all, a good turnout and reception to our beers. All ten gallons were gone so that’s success! We finally got home a little after 5 and I was exhausted! Dakota got home after 7 and by then we were all in recovery mode. Elliot went to a friend’s and I made Isaac dinner and then we watched this movie called Waves, which was pretty good.

Sunday, the Easter bunny paid a visit to the kids, Ash ran, and I made a nice meal of pulled pork, mac and cheese, southern style green beans, and cornbread. I was worried things wouldn’t turn out well but they did! I finished up laundry and we watched the first Maze Runner with the kids. We didn’t doo too much else besides cleaning dishes and later on, I made the kids knock-off Taco Bell crunchwraps. It’s really easy and a different way to present Mexican food. We pretty much just watched movies and stuff until bed.

And here I am, back in the office, looking for jobs. I know that I always land on my feet but it’s touch and go in between. The extended kindness to keep working here until I find something is a bit of a false sense of security. Obviously I am working to get something as soon as I can, as opposed to how I would have done it if it had just been my decision to leave. I’m feeling secure, however, in the knowledge that I do have skills and something to give to any new employer… just not this one!

Since it’s a freebie week and this songs feel timely, here’s mine:

5 thoughts on “MMMM + I don’t want to be here

  1. I’m sorry to read you have to look for another job. That’s a hard blow. We’ve been down that road many times and I do understand the mental challenge you’re facing. I always looked at it when one door closes another opens. I hope this gives you comfort and strength in your pursuit. Thanks for joining the 4M party. Have a boogietastic week, darlin’!

  2. It’s been a long time since this has happened to either myself or my husband but I remember the feelings and it sucks when you think you are doing what the employer expects and then suddenly you find out different. Or it could have been something that really didn’t have anything to do with your performance but that’s what they are saying. Once you take inventory of both your skills and your interests, your path forward may become easier. You picked a good song for the occasion. Good luck. Alana ramblinwitham

  3. I was let go, restructuring, after 31 yrs as a credit counsellor. It was a sock in the gut. I also had to go through a full hysterectomy so that gave me time to think. My brother sent me flowers with a card saying ”Chin up girl, this is only an opportunity!” 8 months later I got a great job with less hassle. I might have to work later but the hassle is gone so it will work out for you. Give yourself time. Love Fleetwood

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