I just did something that, were it said to me, I would have been annoyed. It also crosses into the boundary zone of whether it is right to say or not. So, I was in the Circle K on campus, purchasing some coffee, and the girl ringing me up “looked” pregnant. I know, of course, that you never just ask “when are you due?” for fear that she may have just added a few pounds. But from the looks of her small, thin frame, I kind of knew that was not the case. However, I was certain of her impending child by the way she touched her belly. Pregnant women do this sort of passing touch that reaffirms that yes, they are still pregnant and yes, their belly is that large. So I asked. “When are you due?” And she says 3 weeks. Now, I know some women don’t gain a lot of weight but I swear to you she looked only about 5 or 6 months. I was relieved to know that I was wrong in my assertion, though. She then whined about how she’s so ready to be done with it. Yeah, I know how that is. At least she doesn’t have the requisite 30 pounds to lose.
And speaking of women, I’ve been thinking a lot about BlogHer lately, what with it happening tomorrow and all. I’m not a jealous person or even an envious person. I do not typically lust after things (unless we want to consider George Clooney a thing and then in that case…). But I really do have this secret desire to become one of these bloggers who makes it. You know, who becomes popular enough to be included in the circle. Sure, anyone can go to Blogher; it’s just a conference. But I don’t think I’d have the guts to do it unless I had broken into that realm of popularity and/or had become friends enough with those people to have them begging me to go. Or at least urging me to. Secretly (and I keep saying that, as if it’s not obviously un-secret right now) I want to be a part of that special woman thing that all my favorite bloggers have. I just don’t know what it takes. I know: keep writing, comment on blogs, get yourself out there. I worry that I’ll have to go to independent hosting eventually. It may be the only way. That or be pushy and asked to be touted in other peoples’ blogs. And then, is that even the right way to earn so-called fame? Probably not.
But I look forward to all the tweets from Blogher. I hear it’s one hell of a good time, if you like to par-tay. And I think you do. 🙂
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I know what you mean, about all of it. I feel the same way … and yet, at some point, I have to step back and think … this blog that I write … that’s for me. That’s my way to record my life, the same way I used to keep journals. It’s not always pretty and the writing is not always good. But it’s real and it’s raw. And people can take it or leave it.
I think BlogHer is going to blow anyway 😉
How interesting–I’d never thought about what it takes to “make it” in the blogosphere. I’d never wondered how it became that some bloggers gain their popularity and notoriety. And I guess it is from posting often and making meaningful posts people can relate to. And I can see where independent hosting would become key with that.
I think it might be WAY HARDER to go as someone who had “made it.” Imagine being Dooce or Sundry, going to BlogHer: people expect some sort of CELEBRITY, and you’d have to, like, MEASURE UP.