It’s Luke Bryan day!

In a little bit, I’ll be going home to get ready for the show. I’ll be meeting my friends and taking one car out to the Tallahassee antique car museum, where the concert will be. I’m a little nervous leaving all three kids with Ash, though he’s pretty much a pro at this by now. It’s the bottle feeding, etc for the baby that makes me worried. Not that he can’t do it but that he’ll be stressed out by it. Silly, I know. But he also might brave Elliot’s school’s Fall festival with all three and that would make me nervous if it was ME taking them. I am sure he will be fine though. Sometimes being thrown into situations is the best thing.

I hardly ever do things for myself so I need to stop feeling guilty about it. Ash goes out a couple evenings every week and I am stuck with the three. I do just fine and I know he will too.

What is up?

I am stuck on level 181 of Candy Crush and don’t think I will ever beat it. Unlike some levels where you can get lucky and the stars align just right to win, this one is a lot trickier; I have been stuck there for over a month now. But in those waning afternoon hours where I am too tired to go out or start a new project, and all that’s on are Bones reruns, I still play the level, over and over and over.

There is a squirrel – juvenile from the looks of his scrawny legs – walking back and forth on my deck with a nut of some type in his mouth. We have a lot of them around but they usually don’t frequent my deck near the door, probably because of the dogs. Not that my dogs ever pay them any mind, though. They’re simply present. My dad’s squirrels will go right up to him and take a peanut from his hand. One will even sit on his hand and eat it. In the absence of a dog, my father has adopted squirrels.

Both mornings and evenings have been slightly cooler this week and I am eagerly awaiting actual Fall. The feel of it makes me able to cope with other stresses like ALL those activities that seem to happen around this time. It’s fairly busy right on through Christmas. I cant lie: I am a little stressed about going back to work. This upcoming week I plan to start pumping and storing milk for Dakota’s entry into daycare. The final week of September we’re going to go into the infant room for a couple hours to get used to it. I haven’t had a kid in the infant room at this daycare (both boys did in-home until they were one) so I want to see how they run things. I trust the place entirely but again, my boys were older. I have to store milk for the night I’ll be at a concert. And maybe even for a morning when I might do one of those color runs. I may not though; it’s the day after the concert and I may be a little worse for wear. I love having a baby again but there are all those provisions we must make in order to care for her. (Running during the time of breastfeeding is definitely one of the more annoying and uncomfortable facets of motherhood.)

I kind of wish we could go to the beach one more time before Summer sails on but I know it would be way too hard to make it with the baby. I used to read this blog where they traveled all over the world with their kid and they made it work, but they were made of tougher stuff. The fact that we even have to drive four hours for Thanksgiving makes me preemptively weep.

Baby Girl has started smiling this week. Though I know it is merely a reflex, I do know it is in response to something she likes, like a sound or image. It doesn’t mean she has some kind of emotional connection to me, but it’s good enough. Watching this little lump that does little more than sleep, eat, and poop, finally see your face and then react to it is rather heartwarming. And you can understand why people have more than one kid.

Some days, time slips away from me and I am disappointed that I haven’t done more. Today,  I took the boys to school then went to Target for a few things. It’s ten now and I have papers to grade, but don’t feel like it. I know I’ll be happy with myself if I do so I had better get on it.

 

Pre-labor musings

Between 8 AM and 2 PM yesterday, I had irregular but more painful contractions. I went home around noon and laid down, because that felt a lot better, even though I was still having them. I didn’t figure I’d be going to the hospital any time soon; this was exactly what happened with Isaac. So this time, I’m taking it with stride and knowing that my body is simply preparing for the real deal. I felt alright last night but really cold, for some reason, and just achy and tired. I fell asleep on the couch watching Casino Royale but then woke to catch Inkmaster.

This morning, I felt nauseous, which is apparently pretty common around now. No contractions yet today though. We’ll see how it goes. We wait.

I am awaiting a coupon I supposedly get from Babies R Us right around now so I can get things that I didn’t get from my registry. Waiting so we can save money on the carseat; I figure we’d better order that soon! I do feel like shopping; I wonder if it’s part of that nesting thing. Yesterday, even though I was in pain, I put the new bumper in the crib (ok, it’s a mesh liner, but still). I appeased my desire to shop by taking Elliot to get new shoes after dinner. He needed a distraction anyway; the holdover from Monday’s full moon was affecting he kids. They weren’t bad, but they were definitely out of sorts and just… weird.

I was really surprised how tired I felt after having those contractions all morning. I laid down and just felt worn. This does not bode well for those first few weeks when I have to adjust to waking up every couple hours. I do that now but I pee and go back to sleep, not walk to the nursery, feed a baby, then lay back down. Sigh. You’d think this wouldn’t worry me, seeing as how I have done it twice before.

Anyway, that’s what I’ve been thinking about. I’m in limbo and waiting, just waiting. And will keep you posted.

 

Slightly overwhelming

A few weeks ago, I ran into one of Elliot’s former preschool teachers at the mall. While we caught up, she asked things like if we still had the same jobs, lived in the same place, etc. And I said yes, realizing I prefer stability over radical change these days. Whenever a kid gets sick though, all that is thrown out of whack. Isaac was mostly better yesterday, though napped a lot and didn’t much eat. Elliot, on the other hand, was fine all day but then around dinner, said his stomach hurt and then he commenced with the puking. Just once though and he took a bath and went to bed. He was fine all night and woke up this morning feeling normal, so he says. And Isaac woke up STARVING so that’s a good sign.

I’m glad it happened this week and not next; next week we leave for Orlando to stay in a swanky hotel. Although, I will still have work to do while there so I have no idea how that’s going to work. It’ll be me and the kids in the room while Ash is working; it’s for a conference. However, I think my parents will come over for one of the days and then on Friday, in the afternoon, we’re taking the kids to Magic Kingdom. THAT is when I will forget I even have all these jobs and just enjoy life for a bit.

It’s going to be crazy, I fear, once this new baby arrives. Though maybe not; maybe this time it’ll be so old hat we’ll all adjust just fine. That would be nice. I keep having slight panic attacks about all the things that come along with a new baby but I really don’t know why. Half of them weren’t even bad with Isaac. I.E. lack of sleep. You just resign yourself to the fact that babies need to eat all the damn time and your body adjusts. I can’t tell you how many people thought it was insane that I was the only one who got up when a kid needed to eat. Until men have the ability to lactate, then that is how it is. I wouldn’t choose formula over BFing just so it would be “fair”. Ash helped out big time when Isaac was born and I have no doubt he’ll really play a large part in keeping the boys happy while I focus on Baby Girl. Who, by the way, had three names in the running but since two have been ruled out, I am pretty sure we’re going with our original frontrunner: Olivia.

This summer will be busy getting her room ready and generally rearranging our house/lives, but the Fall will be equally crazy. A lot of things are up in the air, especially my parents’ situation. As mentioned before, my dad’s been out of a job for a while. But my mother only recently found out her position at the private school was not renewed. She has been with them in some capacity since about 1995 so it kind of sucks. Meanwhile, my dad’s been applying for a million jobs but has finally resigned himself to applying here in Tallahassee. He made first cut on a city job and has a second interview at Bass Pro Shop this coming Monday. I think it would be really good if they moved here. Though we’d lose that Orlando connection, my parents need to do what they can to be pulling in money.

I have always wondered what it would be like to have family in the same town. My sister lived here for one year, a while ago. We saw each other – maybe – once every two weeks, if that. I would like the bonuses my parents would bring for the kids: picking them up from school if we ever needed them to, emergency babysitter, and just the time they’d get to spend with them. I’d say now, with them four hours way, we see them once every month or two. It’s a good time away but the kids and my parents really benefit. My mother and I already talked about ground rules anyway; no stopping by any time you want. There have to be boundaries. But again, overall, it’s a great chance to be closer to family.

I’m really hoping something pans out for them. I know they have struggled for a long time now and it’s time they got a break. When you’re my parents’ ages, you should be thinking about retirement!

So yeah, lots of changes, lots of things just going on in general: birthday parties, beach trips, friends moving away, babies being born. It’s a turbulent time but for the most part, we’ve found our stride and we are stable.

Putting out fires but where’s MY fireman?

Monday began book orders for my entire department and since the system is new, no one knew what they were doing. Not only that, but the first person in charge was – conveniently – not at work. The second in command, also mysteriously absent. I then trained another coworker on the ins and outs of said system. Then I proceeded to do my own damn work. And I worked all evening – at home. The week has been exceedingly busy and I came home from yoga last night to find that Isaac had a slight lapse in his spotless potty training record for the week, Ash was in a funk about a work problem, and Elliot was bitching and moaning as usual.

I got the laundry started and the kids clean and dried.

After shuffling them off to bed, I ate my Publix sub and we watched Life of Pi, which was a good movie for the moment; made me remember to be thankful. Ash’s problem averted (with the help of a margarita or two… but mission accomplished.)

I thought it was Thursday all day yesterday. Today, my mind gets to relive Thursday all over again. Elliot woke up with some intestinal distress then followed it up with his most negative attitude and complaints of still being tired after 10 hours of sleep. Kid, most adults would kill for 10 hours; shut up. By the time he left my car and stood at the corner near the crossing guard. I think he was awake (mostly) and feeling better.

Seriously considering just picking up Boston Market for dinner. Not only do I not want to cook, but we may all need some comfort food. And maybe just watch a movie tonight. I need someone to come to my rescue; to quell all my fears and anger and tell ME it’s going to be alright.

I’ll settle for a coffee and donut. Yeah, that makes everything better.

Drowning, waving, whatever

This week’s theme: just keep my head above water. Thank GOD Ash comes home today. It hasn’t been HARD, per se, but it’s been a long five days with just me and the boys. We’ve made it though; he comes home tonight. The hardest part is having my brain in ON mode for that many hours a day. And for anyone who has been pregnant, the term “pregnancy brain” is totally a true thing. So not only is my gray matter in a state of flux and not altogether present, I have had to make it so.

I had final papers in a Lit class to grade, grammar tests in a comp class to grade, teaching and papers that my face-to-face class turned in (though I totally have not graded those) and I am wrestling with the new course management system for my normal job. My head has felt like it was about to explode pretty much all week. My decompression time has been in the car on the 10-15 minutes drive to retrieve the children, but then that’s over and it’s back to being ON.

The problem I now encounter with all these side jobs, is that it doesn’t actually END. If it did, I’d be stressing because that means the money would then end. And even though I make it a point not to work on them over the weekend,  i go back to being slammed at the beginning of each week. I guess what I need is a vacation  though I am afraid of the post-vacation blues I’ll inevitably feel once it’s over. My plan was to get to St. George Island this weekend, though Sunday will be warmer than Saturday and I doubt we’ll have time for that drive, after the few Easter things we actually do (baskets, egg hunt in the yard).

There’s no tee ball so at least the day is free. My plan is to actually relax and not feel like the dino below. My entire life lately feels exactly like him!

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The Arcade Machine

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That’s the best photo I can come up with for now but yes, we have a Killer Instinct 2 arcade machine in the kitchen. Ash bought it in (probably) 2003, when we were living in a huge ass house with other people. It worked well in the basement but then we moved here and it just doesn’t work. Now it did, before kids, because we’d have parties and people always played it. I feel like we’ve outgrown it now, even with two boys getting older. The monitor sometimes shuts off after ten minutes of play and to be honest, we just play more console and computer games. It’s kind of sad because Ash misses his days of arcade play but it’s just outgrown its space in my kitchen!

Expectations/Technology/Tennessee

On our way back from Chicago, we had booked a hotel in Chattanooga instead of Nashville because we had this grand idea of utilizing an indoor pool. In the end, it was useless because we forgot floaties and Elliot is still terrified of the pool. He won’t even go in with us holding him; he clings to your flesh for dear life, his tiny nails digging in so hard he’ll draw blood. SO, anyway, we ran into a whole lot of southbound traffic – other holiday travelers – and were way behind schedule. Outside Nashville on the way South, we decided to look online for a restaurant with a play place, preferably Chik-Fil-A, since that’s the only fast food the kids eat anyway. However, there weren’t any so Ash started looking for McDonald’s, simply for an indoor playground. Their website allows you to search for locations by play places so we found one, input the address into the fancy new GPS and got off the interstate.

Well, I tell you, this McDonald’s was a.) in the ghetto and b.) did not have a play place. We got back on the interstate ASAP and started looking again. This time, their site sent us somewhere southeast, on a road headed to Knoxville. We ended up in a fairly nice little place where they had those cool new outdoor mall type shopping places and diamond stores. More my pace (more on this idea later) but the McDonald’s definitely had an indoor play area. While Ash and I haven’t had their food (minus ice cream three or four times) since 2004, Elliot has had it exactly twice. The rule is that he can have fast food if he’s with someone else who has it. Like, he ate it with my parents once. He was hungry so he got a cheeseburger and I ordered Isaac some chicken fingers. Which he did not eat. I ate them and they were HORRID. ANYway, we went back to the play place which was semi-closed due to a broken step. But we were so frustrated we decided to play anyway, along with a few other kids. I prepped myself for the manager to come tell us to get out but it never happened, thank God. I probably would have gone off on him. After the first mishap and it being late and everyone hungry, we were all on edge. The kids did have a great time playing and it was a much needed break from the car.

When we were about 45 minutes from Chattanooga, Ash sought a Dominoes that wasn’t far off the highway. He ordered his pizza and we timed it just right to pick it up and not be far from the hotel. I had never done this before but it worked.

All of this just reminds me how much we rely on technology now but it still lets you down. The website for McDonald’s was clearly not updated. And something I think GPS devices should come equipped with is some kind of meter to determine what type of neighborhood you’re heading into. We have come to expect perfection, because it’s so readily available and easy. But it’s clearly not foolproof. I learned quite a bit on this trip, about the way we expect devices to be and our expectations of our morals. We don’t eat fast food but if we’re in a bind, we’ll go ahead and do what we have to do. There have to be exceptions for everything. Things cannot be ideal all the time. Hell, we got into that hotel so late that all we pulled out were toothbrushes, etc. We all just took our clothes off and got into bed; screw pajamas. I went down to the car the next morning to gather clothes. It wasn’t perfect, far from it, but we still managed and are not worse for wear. I am really glad we decided to drive in the end. It taught me a lot and I hope the kids got something out of it as well. And I know for sure I won’t be eating McDonald’s again for a long time!

Admissions

Well I… well, I was going to tell someone I’d be willing to pick up the slack on some of those memes now that I have a blog that can actual host linky widgets but I don’t know if I’ll have the time to really keep up with it. Sitting here back at work for the first time since the 21st of December, I realize just how insane my life is going to be very soon. The University begins again on Monday, my face to face class, Tuesday. I finish up one online class next week and begin a new one, along with another course for another school. On top of of all that, there’s a lot I want to do for the kids this semester, mostly helping Elliot to conquer reading, which I thought he’d be doing already.

While I’m… admitting things, I had a hell of a morning. Felt fine – flu-wise – all the way until about ten minutes from work. And then it struck: nausea. And the thing is, I know it’s not from the flu. Because I’m about 8 weeks pregnant. I had had some morning sickness already but this was particularly bad and I tell you, there may be no worse thing than an impending hurl while driving. I found a little baggie that had contained a Chik-Fil-A toy and used it, but sadly, it did have a hole in it. Sigh. I had to high-tail it into the work bathroom and see what I could do about my jeans. It’s not bad, just really lame. It’s not my first rodeo here and yet, that was a major fail.

Because of this and having been sick, I have not been working out at all. I feel crappy about it and crappy because of it. I can’t wait to regain a little energy so I can at least use the elliptical again. The flu had me on my ass so badly that I couldn’t do a thing, seriously. I lost track of time and things and had no idea when are where we all were. Which is such a bad way to be! I always say, moms can’t get sick. And it’s true.

I’m just trying to get my life back on track here. Hoping this weekend will see to that. Though, I did get all my Christmas decorations put away yesterday and got cleaning done. I felt so darn good about it. In fact, I even tried to take a nap but couldn’t because I was too riled up to clean. Crazy, right?

Well, there you have it. I’m going to try to get organized in my office before our Spring meeting, which always unsettles me a little, even though I talk to these folks all the time. Have a good weekend!

Rough start to 2013

Oh man, you guys. Shortly after I posted Monday morning, I really got to feeling bad. I had errands to run though so the boys and I hit up Target and Burlington and we went to Chik-fil-A – because they love it – and by the afternoon, I knew I had something worse than a sinus infection. I started my “dead to the world” phase then. Tuesday, I barely had the energy to do anything but luckily, Ash was off work so he took care of the kids. By 2:15, I dragged myself to Urgent Care and came home with a flu diagnosis and an RX for Tamiflu. I tell you what, that stuff WORKS. That night, Ell had a low grade fever and by Wednesday mid-morning was full-on sick. So he and I went to the ped around 2 and sure enough, flu. My doc also got Isaac on the meds as a preventative and Ash went and did the same. Tamiflu for everyone! I lost so much time; I barely knew what day it was. I’m not 100% but WAY better than I was. I plan on finally taking down the Christmas stuff today while Elliot rests; I think he’ll be good to go by tomorrow.

But what a cruddy way to welcome the new year, you know? I wanted to begin by cleaning the house and resetting after the trip but I’m lagging behind. Plus, I was supposed to have been at work the past couple days. Without fail, I’m going tomorrow. The thing is, it’s not just my FSU job I have to do stuff for. All my other online and teaching obligations begin really soon and I was planning on getting them squared away these two days while in the office. I think best there. Sadly, I am going to need to learn to adjust.

And just when we’ve settled in next week – school begins the 7th – we’ll leave mid-day Friday to go to Orlando. We have yet to do Christmas with my family because of the Chicago trip and at the same time, Ash is running the Disney marathon. It’s going to be an insane weekend. But I am looking forward to it. I know my mother wanted us all to be together for the holidays but it can’t always be that way. She’ll adjust as well.

Well, that’s what’s been going on here with us. It’s been crazy and there’s no sign of that letting up soon but we’ll get through!